October 2025

Yesterday I planted seeds. Literal ones in dirt that I turned over with a shovel. Hours of digging turned a weedy patch of grass

Into a patch of dirt

It doesn’t look like much. The edges are ragged. The stump in the middle is oddly shaped. (The stump was the reason the patch couldn’t be mowed.) It is just dirt.

But I sprinkled that dirt with seeds. The seeds don’t look like much either. They’re just specks that vanish the moment I sprinkle them. Yet those specks have the potential to grow into flowering plants. Digging the earth and scattering the seeds is an act of faith in the future. A gift to my future self. She will get to enjoy flowers while now I just get to feel tired and dirty. And accomplished. I’ve been intending this garden ever since we built our pandemic patio and had to chop down our dying walnut tree. Five years I’ve carried this idea in my head. Now it is begun.

This garden has more work ahead of it. Future me will need to create defined edges and set it up so that the garden bed and surrounding lawn are kept separate. Over the next several months I’ll get to see which of the seeds actually sprout and where my scattering left bare patches. I may need to thin out some plants where seeds clumped together. But I did the groundwork today which makes future work possible.

There are other areas of my life where I am metaphorically doing groundwork and scattering seeds for the future. I live in a brain that is constantly watchful for conditions and trends. I read headlines and spin ten possible futures fully rendered with alarm klaxons and lists for how I should prepare. But all of that is reactive, as if I have no guiding hand in what the future will bring. And, true, my ability to control large scale events is small-to-nothing. I can’t roll back climate change, or restore a just-bulldozed historical treasure, or fix uncountable inhumane treatments of people, but I am not completely powerless. I can lay small, local groundwork for a future I want to have instead of just trying to survive what comes at me.

In eight months my patch of dirt may be gloriously abloom, or it may be a mess of re-growing grass and dirt. But the work I did means that flowers are possible when they weren’t possible before. A small patch of flowers doesn’t fix the world, but it might mean everything to a bee. It makes something better and more beautiful. Something is better than nothing.

The memory of grapes stabbed me with anxiety this morning. Considering the round squishiness of grapes, stabbing isn’t something that comes naturally to them. Unfortunately anxiety is expert at stabbing with adrenaline spikes, which is what happened this morning. Anxiety stabbed before I was even fully awake and all at once I remembered that there are still grapes on my vines, that I’ve been intending to turn them into juice, that I’ve been too busy, that all of my days are tetrised together with tasks, that grapes are not the only tasks I’ve failed to accomplish this week. Then anxiety helpfully supplied a list of all my failures and how those failures will inevitably lead to my doom.

Anxiety is no respecter of sleep, nor of the fact that on Sunday mornings I deliberately delay my alarm to allow the morning to be slower.

I am (Fortunately? Unfortunately?) very familiar with this sort of anxiety stab, and so instead of hopping on board with the anxiety, I counter with grounding in today. None of those terrible outcomes have happened yet. I’m fine today. Thank you for that list, I can use it when I’m prioritizing tasks for the week. (Sometimes things become priorities for anxiety prevention as well as because of deadline urgency.) Remember today’s plan. Stick to the plan, including the scheduled time when I consider tomorrow’s plan. Breathe to try to calm the adrenaline out of my physical form. Then get up and go do something else, because laying in bed is also laying still in the stew of anxiety.

Today’s plan already included grapes. That’s why they were on my mind and why I had already photographed them. I will not allow anxiety’s attempted hijack ruin my day.

The first completion was Gen Con in August. That was a huge and complex project that lived in my brain for nine months. The completion of Gen Con was followed by the completion of Worldcon, Writing Excuses Recording, and sending Structuring Life to Support Creativity off to print. Each thing concluded gave me space to complete something else, rather like a debt consolidation plan where paying off one debt frees up funds to pay off the next debt faster.

One lingering project that I finally concluded last week was my collected book of blog and journal entries for 2024. While putting the finishing touches on it, I re-discovered the priorities I set myself at the beginning of 2025. I’d forgotten them.

• Entrench
• Grow
• Complete

I say I forgot them because I had forgotten those specific words and I never used them to bring myself back to task, but as I’m looking at the past three fourths of a year, those words are completely accurate to how I spent my time. Especially “complete.” 2025 has been a year of completion. And I’m not done yet. I’ve completed so many things this year and I can feel the acceleration in completion.

• This week I’ll complete the shipping for Mandatory Failure
• The week after I’ll complete the warehouse reorganization.
• By December I’ll be delivering Structuring Life to Support Creativity in all formats.

With the acceleration, I discover that I don’t want to fill up the space in my life with grand new projects. I want quite projects and a sustainable creative life. I have begun an effort to build up my Patreon, but that doesn’t feel grand and new, it feels like continuing an effort I’ve long delayed. I am deliberately choosing deliverables that help me create the life I want to be living rather than projects that represent a big stretch for me.

Completion opens up space. In that space I get to choose what comes next. I am trying to choose my “next” based on hope instead of fear. I am also making sure I pause long enough to enjoy this moment in my life when I am happily working and completing things instead of being buried in an avalanche of urgent responsibility. I hope I get to just quietly continue. At least through the end of the year.

One of our current efforts is to eliminate plastics out of our food preparation and storage. Howard did a bunch of reading on the effects of microplastics, particularly the interactions between chronic fatigue, long covid, and microplastics. The science is not clear, but switching our food containers is a small change and if it helps, why not? We definitely needed to switch out our plastic cutting boards. They were aging and had begun visibly shedding plastic fragments every time we used them. In an effort not to replace old plastic with new plastic, Howard acquired some stainless steel cutting boards. I don’t like using them. The sound of the metal knife on a metal cutting board sends bad sensations up my arm. So I did a small splurge and bought a set of acacia wood cutting boards.

I’ve always found the textures and colors of stained wood to be beautiful. I love how wood was grown instead of made. Every time I use this board I am pleased with how it feels in my hands, how it looks to my eye, and how it functions as part of my food preparation. Life is full of tools for necessary tasks. Selecting them to provide a small joy instead of a small annoyance improves my daily experience. It gives me a small lift instead of a small drain. I need every lift I can get.

One of the things I love about road trips is the way it shuts out so much of the noise of daily life. There is a clear and simple objective, to travel safely to the destination. Everything else waits until we arrive. Even when we’re posting to social media or checking in on email, there is a distance between me and my usual online existence. Road trips force a focus on the needs of the moment, they ground me in Now. So I was surprised when driving south on I-15 that I was constantly bouncing through fragments of memory. It is a road that I frequently traveled in other eras of my life, and apparently in those past trips I’d seeded memory along the road to be re-discovered on this one.

I found myself thinking of the many trips I’d taken to and from Cedar City while one of my kids went to college there. The stops I made at local attractions during those years where I learned local history. The times one of my other kids rode with me because long drives pulled him out of depression and we were able to talk. The time I parked on this road in stalled traffic on a snowy Thanksgiving weekend while the plows tried to clear the road ahead. The events are fragmentary and most of them don’t have a fixed location I can name. I just have “This stretch of road looks like that one time when…”  

Memory comes with emotion. Somehow the hard emotions are stickier than the happy ones. Even when I don’t have a concrete memory to recall, some stretches of road had layers of feeling for me to discover.

Howard was my companion on this trip and he was untroubled by the landscape of memory which I encountered. I did my best to not fill the air with musings about the fragments of feeling and memory I encountered. Sometimes I shared if there was a specific story to tell. Mostly there wasn’t much point in pulling Howard out of his pleasant road trip to express a vague memory of stress associated with a particular curve in the road.

As we traveled I wondered why the hard memories lingered. I know that many of the trips along the road were joyful. I sometimes wrote stories or blog posts in my head while in transit. I enjoyed learning local history. We traveled this road once to see an Annular Eclipse, a fun day trip. Perhaps I held the happy moments close and carried them home with me instead of leaving them scattered by the roadside like litter.

Driving through, did seem to do some sort of clean up, because on the return trip I did not spend so much time haunted by memories. Of course the return trip was its own adventure.  It is harder to be contemplative about the past when confronted with current events that need action.

So now I have a midnight blown tire complete with overnight hotel and finding a tire store the next morning as part of my experience of the road. All things considered we had the most convenient possible roadside emergency. We were right by an exit with a well-lit gas station and a hotel with a vacancy.

Part of me wants to travel the road again for the specific purpose of collecting and exploring all of those memories. I’d like to Walk the Spiral again. But at this moment in time wandering through memory is going to be set aside in favor of moving forward. I have so many things I want to do, and I need to focus my attention on those.

The trip was good. We traveled to Los Angeles for the Writing Excuses recording camp. We returned safely having safely traveled 1300 miles of road and memory. Time for me to put away road trip thoughts and be at home.