Author name: Sandra Tayler

With the end of the insane 2008 convention season and the shipping of Teraport Wars, Howard and I have found ourselves with more time and brain space than we have had in over a year. We’ve been spending some of that on home maintenance. Mostly we’re taking care of little things, but it is surprising how much difference a small maintenance task can make. Howard has been focusing primarily on the lighting in our house. He replaced two fixtures that we’ve hated for years. Then he went through the rest of the house replacing light bulbs and talking about replacing other fixtures as well. The thoroughness of his attention to lighting was a little puzzling to me since lighting had not seemed like a big issue to me. Then something he said clicked into place in my head. The days are getting shorter and Howard remembers clearly how hard last winter was on me. We suspect I have a mild case of Seasonal Affective Disorder. I feel more sad/depressed in the winter. Howard is paying so much attention to the light in our house, because he hopes it will help make my winter better. Oh look, it already has.

Howard and I went to see the Body Worlds exhibition in Salt Lake City. It was fascinating, and disturbing. I could look at sections of bodies, hip joints, heart muscles, lung arteries, without feeling anything but interest. But when I looked at the whole bodies, I was forced to confront the fact that this had once been a living person who was now plastinated and put up for artistic display. All the bodies there had been specifically donated to the exhibition, but it was still very strange. I would examine the muscles and the nervous system or the circulatory system. I admired the artistry with which the bodies had been arranged. They not only displayed the interior of the human body for inspection, but some of the arrangements also made commentary on what it means to be human. I had to look respectfully and think carefully about what I thought was being said and what meanings I would take away with me. And then I would look into the face of the art and remember that this had once beena living human with family and dreams and a job. The emotional impact was impressive. (It would have been even more so if the place had not been packed with high school students on a field trip.)

And then I came to the human development room. The tiny fetuses in little jars had little effect on me, except the last one which had recognizable eyes and fingers. I felt awe that something so tiny could be the beginning of a human being. Next was a case with a fetus approximately 30 weeks along. It was so little and perfectly formed. It looked plastic, but again I looked into the face and knew that this exhibit had once been alive. My niece was 30 weeks along when she was born prematurely. I was looking at a baby who, for whatever reason, had never had the chance to live. I know the value of studying bodies after death, even the bodies of babies. But I could not look anymore. There were other cases in that room, but I could not even look at them. It was too sad for me. The adult exhibits had lived lives. Some were dead by their choices. All were in the exhibition by their choices. But the fetal babies were different. Howard and I moved on before I started to cry.

This exhibition, and the three sister exhibitions, are controversial. Many people have had many things to say about whether it should exist. When the first exhibition opened in Germany, I never believed it would come to the states. I thought people here would be too squeamish. But only a decade later it is not only in the States, but in one of the very conservative states and I saw no controversy over it at all. One of the things I am pondering about the experience I had, is what the very existence of the exhibition says about the society in which I live and what my reactions say about me. There is an element of freak show. There is an element of scientific study. There were definitely elements of beauty. The art was beautiful. All of those elements spoke to me on different levels. I am interested to note that there were no children on display. There were fetuses to newborn and then there were adults, nothing in between. It seems that either parents do not donate the bodies of their children, or the institutes refuse to use them for display. This says something about how humans feel about children, our protective instincts. I am glad there were no children. Seeing them would have been as hard or harder for me than the human development room.

We came home with an exhibition catalog. It has photographs of many of the exhibits we saw. It also has photographs from other exhibitions. The emotional impact of the photographs is much less than standing next to the actual bodies. I can look at the infant pictures without crying. Even so, it is not light reading. I have to respect the gift of those who donated their bodies to this project. I am glad that I went. I now have a whole raft of thoughts and impressions filed away in my head from which I can draw thoughts and connections. This is how creativity is fed. But for now I’m ready to file all of that into the back of my brain. I want to be able to watch my children without picturing the muscles, tendons, bones, and organs underneath their skin.

To “Headdesk” is the action of banging your forehead against your desk in realization of something stupid you have done.

I’ve been running out of space on my computer. Local Drive C is a 50 gig hard drive, which sounds like a lot until you start editing books and layouts and photographs. About a year ago Howard and I bought an external drive to serve as a back-up for my files. So I happily put pictures and other non-essential stuff onto Backup Drive D, which had space for 18 gigs.

All was well and good until I filled up the space that I’d made on drive C.

Last night Howard suggested that I might make some more space if I flushed my browser cache because Kiki has been watching video on my computer. I blinked at him cluelessly. He sighed and went to my computer to do it himself. He flushed the cache and it made no difference. So he poked around some more.
“What is this?” Howard asked pointing at something labeled Local Drive F.
“I don’t know.” I blinked cluelessly again. “Do I have two internal drives?”
Howard clicked it and discovered that Drive F has over 133 gigs of available space on it. Further examination determined that despite having “local” in the name, Drive F is in fact the external drive that we’d purchased for backing things up. Drive D is a second internal hard drive.

This is akin to opening a door in your house and discovering that you have another whole wing that is three times the size of the space you’ve been living in.

Hurray for space! But *headdesk* how did I miss seeing it was there?

My brain does not like to be idle. It always wants to be engaged on multiple levels. I habitually read while I eat. I’ll listen to music or watch a show while doing manual tasks like folding laundry. There is this almost incessant need for new information. Sometimes it is fiction, other times it is factually based. But every so often I find a day where some instinct tells me “enough.” Then I find myself avoiding input sources. I’ll turn off the music, leave the books laying, walk away from the internet. On these days I have a strong need just to stare at nothing in particular and let my brain wander. Today was such a day. I found myself seeking out manual labor tasks that I usually find boring. No profound thoughts emerged from all the thinking. I had no epiphanies. But my house is cleaner now than it was and I feel calmer. We’ll see what tomorrow brings.

There are not many shows that we can watch as an entire family. Howard and I tend to like shows that are too intense for the kids. The three younger kids like shows that are too simple and repetitive for Howard or I. Kiki loves anime with a passion that is sometimes shared by the other kids, but not by Howard or I. Gleek loves Barbie movies which the other kids all swear they don’t like, but still end up sitting down to watch. Our differing tastes aren’t really a problem. We just schedule the use of the TV accordingly so that everyone gets a fair turn. But sometimes we want to sit down for a family viewing. It is frequently frustrating because the youngest two kids often bounce during the exposition parts of the film that the rest of us are trying to hear. Recently we’ve found two shows that engage us all, the Speed Racer movie and the Myth Busters TV series.

I did not expect to like Speed Racer. Nothing about the trailers interested me. I did not care about race car crashes in over saturated colors. I still don’t. The bright colors, blinking lights, and general flashiness are hard on my eyes. But I find the storytelling methods fascinating. Back story and story line are packed together so tightly. You switch from past to present so often that sometimes it is hard to tell which one is supposed to be present, and yet the story advances so that I am not lost. The movie itself seems like a race. Everything happens so fast. This film has one of the best uses of visual medium that I’ve ever seen. In most films the back story is told using dialog. A character tells about something that happened in the past. Sometimes you get a flashback scene to tell what happened. Speed Racer depends heavily on montage. There are places where a whole story of decision and regret is told wordlessly in less than a minute. Every time the kids turn on the show, I end up watching fascinated. I want to see how the storytelling is done, although most of it will not ultimately help me as a storyteller since my mediums are not visual. And yet it is still definitely a kid’s show. There are characters, such as the monkey, who only exist to be silly. But these silly kid scenes never lasted long enough to bore me. Similarly the few exposition scenes never lasted long enough to bore Gleek or Patch. And most of the exposition was accompanied by fascinating visuals or montages. I suspect that Speed Racer is a movie that people will either love or hate. The good news is that the first 15 minutes of the film is a self-contained storyline that introduces all the characters, all the back story, and comes to a satisfactory conclusion at the end of a race. If you don’t like the first 15 minutes, don’t bother with the rest.

Myth Busters has a very different appeal to our family. It also keeps the interest high by keeping the scenes short. But we are fascinated by the cool things they get to build and frequently blow up. And it ends up being educational because invariably there is some aspect of the show that the kids don’t understand and we then have to pause and explain. Just yesterday I got to explain to Gleek what breast implants were and why someone would want them. Less awkward for me, but equally fascinating to the kids are the discussions we’ve had about electricity, microwaves, the reason we don’t perform these experiments at home, and why we can’t have an electric eel for a pet. I love that the show gives us stuff to talk about. I love hearing Kiki and Link expound about things that they know which Gleek and Patch do not. Then Howard or I weigh in and correct erroneous information.

We own Speed Racer, but there are only so many times we can watch the same film, even one with fascinating storytelling. We have several seasons of Myth Busters to go through. After that, we’ll again be seeking a show.

As befits Halloween, the day began with blood. Patch had one of those spontaneous bloody noses that leak so dramatically. We washed up all the blood just in time for me to cover my hands in red goo. The teenage vampire needed red streaks in her hair. She also needed black streaks. No sooner had I washed my hands clean, than the devilish angel (or angelic devil) needed her hair sprayed half red and half glittery gold. Then there was the black eye shadow and red lipstick for both girls. I had to pause the preparations to go on a quest for the large Indiana Jones’ white shirt. Then again later to quest for the small Indiana Jones’ shoes. When it was all done, I hauled the teenage vampire, Indiana Jones, the angelic devil (or devilish angel) and Indiana Jones all into the kitchen for a group picture. Then I drove them all to school. Later today there will be two school parades. In the evening there will be trick-or-treating. After that we have Indiana Jones and the Kingdom of the Crystal Skull for entertainment, because we need an amusingly bad adventure movie to finish the day.

Every time we prepare for Howard to attend a convention, we box up stacks of books into easily portable boxes. These boxed then get carried to the convention. When the convention is over, any remaining books get reboxed and hauled back home. Once back at home, we shove the boxes into a corner where we won’t trip on them because we’re too tired to unpack them completely. Also there was always another convention coming soon, so it seemed logical to leave the books boxed. But when we’re prepping for the next convention we invariably discovered that when packing from the previous convention we not sorted the books neatly by type. So it is faster to just pack up fresh boxes.

I’m sure you see where this is going. We’ve been accumulating boxes of miscellaneous books for months. This has made our work spaces cluttered and made inventory very difficult to count. Today I started finding all those boxes and sorting the books into the appropriate inventory stacks. The job is not done yet, but already I feel much better. Once I get all the inventory sorted, I’ll do a thorough inventory count. This will allow me to make sure that the inventory listed in my tracking programs actually matches the physical inventory. It won’t. Anyone who has tracked inventory can tell you that things randomly turn go missing only to resurface months or even years after you’ve written it off. There are promo books that we’ve handed out that we forgot to record. There are shirts which, upon further inspection, turned out to be damaged. Sometimes the kids decide to read one of Daddy’s books and grab on out of inventory rather than searching for the one on the shelf. Inventory wanders. Now it is time for me to find it all and figure out how much we’ve got.

Inventory is not the only thing I’ve been putting into place. I’ve been to the gym twice in the last week. I’ve started paying attention to what I eat. I swept a mass of toys and dust out from under the front room couch. Convention season is over. The book shipping is over. I now have time to put everything else back where it goes.

Sad:  Realizing, at age 35, that I am mildly tone deaf.  My singing voice will waver as much as a quarter tone off the note and I can’t hear it.  This means that I am retroactively embarrassed about any public singing I’ve done ever.  It is possible that the inability to hear notes clearly is related to the scar tissue I have on my eardrums.  The scarring is a result of far too many childhood ear infections.  Or perhaps my ears are just built wrong for tone discernment.  This makes me sad because I love singing.  It also makes me doubt my own judgment because I considered singing something I was pretty good at.

Comforting:  Having a nice talk with Howard about perceptions, validation, music, capabilities, limiting factors, and plans.

Frustrating:  Finally assigning the kids chores that will help us get the house actually clean rather than just de-cluttered.  Then having a child whine that the 20 minute job I’ve assigned is too hard and completely unfair.  We wrangled and then came back to the conflict from a different angle.  The job was done by the child, but it is frustrating to try and get them to care about dirt.

Rewarding:  Watching Gleek at her first gymnastics class.  She approached it as she does everything else.  She threw her whole self at each physical task.  Her cartwheels, forward rolls, hand stands, and back rolls would all improve greatly if she would just slow down to get her form right.  Right now she is using raw energy and muscle power to get the tricks done.  Gymnastics is a perfect fit for her.  It is an activity where she is praised for throwing herself into the activity.

Satisfying:  Knowing that I got all my business stuff done before noon.

Tiring:  Looking around at how much house work there is to be done.  We’ve been operating on bare minimum for over a month.  And for a long time prior to that we’ve been paying only small amounts of attention.  Everything is dirty.

Hopeful:  Howard has finished his last convention for the next six months.  We have a space of time to really refine our home routine and get things running smoothly both for the family and for getting more books into print.