Meandering through my thoughts
It is 8:48 pm and this is the first moment I’ve had to myself all day long. Most of today has revolved around providing structure for Kiki so that she could get through her pile of homework. The other priority for the day was some long overdue house cleaning and decontamination. I’m still washing everything after the illness we had. I still have copious amounts of laundry to run through the machines, but at least the homework is under control. Even better, Kiki has not been fighting me over it.
This week it has been hard for me to find words. I have to have space in my thoughts to process my experiences and for words to come together. There has to be space for me to hold on to those words until I can write them down. One of the most frustrating experiences is when the words are just starting to come together. I’m just tentatively arranging them and then something else demands my attention. The words break apart, spinning into the corners of my brain like the shards of a dropped vase. When I find space again it is not a matter of fitting the pieces back together. It is melting down the shards I can find so that I can make something else.
This reminds me that there used to be a glassblowers stall in our local mall. It is not there anymore. This saddens me even though I never actually bought anything there. I always intended to buy something when I had more money, but now the chance is gone. I wonder what happened to the artisans who used to work there. I wish now that I’d struck up a conversation to learn more about the art of glass blowing. I hope the artists are still working somewhere because the things they made were beautiful.
I still remember the glass rose under a glass dome that was prominently displayed the year I met Howard. It was also the year that Beauty and the Beast hit theaters. I loved the movie since that particular fairy tale has resonance for me. I always stopped to look at the glass roses. That Christmas Howard and I were at a delicate point in our relationship. I was a bit overwhelmed by the whole thing and rather frightened. Howard wanted very much to show how much he loved me, but was afraid of frightening me off. I don’t remember if we exchanged gifts that year. I do remember that I put together a box of notes for him to read while I was at home for the holidays. But I remember clearly when Howard told me that he’d stood in front of those glass roses and almost bought one for me. He didn’t because he wasn’t sure if the gift would be too much for me, even though he felt like it wasn’t enough to express how he felt.
It was years later when Howard did buy me flower decorations. He came home from a trip to the Netherlands with a pair of carved wooden tulips. They sit on my dresser and make me happy when I see them. They are a beautiful thing that Howard got for me just because. On the whole I think I prefer these to the unpurchased glass rose. They are warmer and less fragile, just as Howard and my relationship has grown warmer and more durable. But still lovely.
If the glass blower’s stall were still there, I would now be tempted to go and buy a glass flower. I would do it to support a beautiful art. But I don’t know that I would choose a rose. It is perhaps just as well. Glass flowers lack scent and touch, which is what I need most from flowers. So instead of wandering the mall in search of glass, I wander through the floral section of the grocery store. I am watching for the day when Christmas lilies go on sale. I need lilies and hyacinths in the winter time.
It was only a month or so ago that I was at Writer Girls and I kept catching wafts of the most wonderful scent. It was flowers and after a bit of puzzling, I identified the scent as lily. The flower stand was fifty feet away and down some stairs, but the smell still made me happy. It is a bit silly of me to regret not buying the lilies. Buying them two months ago would not give me blooming lily now. At the time the scent was all I needed.
I can tell that my brain needs to unwind. It is traveling down odd eddies of memory this evening. But I think I’ve now wound to the end. I still have two kids to get into bed.